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Tame the Tongue!

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I feel nudged to ask a serious question… When we don’t agree with or are ‘offended’ by something someone did or something someone said, does that give us the right to be cruel? To use our words to break down a person? I’m hopeful all of you would agree this is not okay!

Why is it then that ‘word’ meanness appears to be ‘okay’ and acceptable on social media? I will never ever understand this or any kind of meanness or cruelty!

No surprise that there is a chapter in the bible dedicated to this word meanness. James 3 is titled Taming the Tongue! Something ALL of us could use help with! Parts of this chapter read something like this:

A small bit can move a large horse.

A small rudder can move an enormous ship.

A small spark can set a whole forest on fire.

Our tongue is small but it is mighty. It can corrupt our whole person!

In the picture above, Toby Mac says it perfectly, “Be careful with your words! The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart.”

Why are we breaking hearts with our words? Especially on social media? WHY? In my humble opinion, people, there is no place for this. Agree with the bible…

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.” James 3:9-10

So, may I ask a favor? Before sharing our strong opinions about something on social media, let’s give it some serious thought, and let’s please pause before we post! Because we all need help taming our tongue! We’ve all made mistakes in life. God certainly knows I have! So, please…let’s stop condemning others with our words when these human beings may or may not have made decisions we don’t like. Let kindness prevail!

Thanks in advance for considering this challenge. 🙏

Stay calm & Speak Life!
Profs Dr. Wendy & Dr. V. 

Remove the Poison

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Years ago, when my daughter was a high school volleyball coach, she would occasionally vent to me during a season she was struggling with a few mean girls (and their mean parents). When visiting with a former volleyball coach about this (who, by the way, had several winning seasons throughout her coaching career), this former, highly-respected volleyball coach looked at me and without hesitation, made an audacious statement…

“Sometimes you just need to remove the poison.” 

Whoa. 😲 Okay.

This advice can be applied to many areas of life. Like relationships for starters! If a relationship becomes toxic, then I guess it is time to remove the poison. 

My relationship with Twitter had become just that…poisonous! 

When I first started ‘dating’ Twitter, I loved the relationship we developed. I found so much useful information there, and I met some amazing people because of Twitter. I loved Twitter so much that I wrote a blog titled Oh, The People You’ll Meet If Only You’ll Tweet. I had a two-way loving relationship going on with Twitter. It loved me and I loved it back. (Can you sense a little addiction here???). 

Not so much anymore. In my humble opinion, Twitter has changed over the past few years…for the worse. It’s not the positive, fun-loving, let’s-hang-out-together relationship it used to be. 

There can be some hilarious tweets such as this one (which my husband shared with me):

BUT…I have found too many tweets to be too negative, too cruel, too judgmental, too…well, poisonous!  The venomous things people say to others is unacceptable in my little world. The attitude of “you accept my opinion or I’ll come hunt you down and hurt you” has become too much for me.

Call me too sensitive, that’s fine. Some may think I look through rose colored glasses, that’s fine too. I will never stop hoping and praying for people (including myself) to love one another, to have empathy for one another, and to have a listening ear of others’ thoughts and opinions. Listening doesn’t mean we have to agree and accept those thoughts and opinions; it just means listen, hear them out, have an open mind, and then make our decision. Again, in my opinion, Twitter doesn’t listen, and it has become ridiculously judgmental! 

A friend of mine had this on his Facebook page and it is so true…

We know so little about others. We know so little about what battles others are fighting. We know so little!! Stop judging, Twitter peeps! Just because we don’t agree with someone (which is our right) doesn’t mean we have the right to be cruel! Goodness…I don’t always agree with what my adult children choose to do (and they don’t always agree with me either)!

BUT, I still love them regardless, and I know they love me!

When my relationships become toxic, as it had with Twitter, then I guess it was time to remove the poison. 

I deleted my Twitter account. 

Stay Calm & Be Kind!
Profs Dr. Wendy & Dr. V.