Grandma…You Have Blue Teeth 😳

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My granddaughter and I were playing with her dolls the other day. She said something silly which triggered a good ole belly laugh in me.  Though she started out laughing with me, she stopped and just looked at me with this serious look on her face. I quit giggling to ask her if she was okay. Very concerned she whispered, “Grandma, you have blue teeth.”

Tooth be told…😆 I got a little concerned. You know how your mind starts to go through scenarios and gets all twisted up like spaghetti? I thought…did I drink something blue? Did I suck on something blue? Did I chew something blue? And…as quickly as those thoughts flew into my mind, they soared right back out. I knew. I knew what she saw.

I am from the ‘olden days.’ Back when we had cavities, our teeth were filled with silver. UGH!!! Well…after about 45 years of that silver taking up long term residency in my tooth, it has stained the whole tooth and it’s a gross gray. My granddaughter saw blue. 🤦‍

Being the elementary teacher that I am, I used this opportunity as a teachable moment. How much this 4-year old little girl grasped about cavities and silver and how lucky she is because fillings are now white is questionable. But, I went into full teacher mode and she got the full lesson on taking care of her teeth. Floss as much as you can! Brush twice a day. Visit the dentist, sweet girl. Poor thing…all she wanted to do was play dolls. 🤷‍

February is National Children’s Dental Health Month. The American Dental Association’s slogan for 2019 is “Brush and clean in between to build a healthy smile.” Back when I was teaching 3rd graders, the school nurse always came into my classroom during February and my students got to chew on red tablets. They certainly got a kick out of it, and thought it was funny to show off their red-toothed smile! Do they still do that? The ADA offers activity sheets on dental health regardless if your school nurse comes in or not. Click here to check them out. If The Dentist Were An Animal written by Rachel Grider and illustrated by Summer Morrison is a cute book to read with your students. There are many dental health children’s books to choose from. Check out google for other titles.

I brush at least twice a day, floss at least twice a day, and irrigate twice a day. Plus, I’m fortunate to get to visit the dentist every six months. At my age, I’m doing everything in my power to keep my teeth. Want to join me? Let’s take care of our teeth together…even if they are blue. 😉 Happy National Children’s Dental Health Month.

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Leadership Lessons from Snowshoeing

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As my husband, Dean, and I were out snowshoeing today, I began to think of the leadership lessons I was learning during our cold yet refreshing one hour adventure. There are commonalities among the two.  Let me share my thoughts on this, and then please share yours in the comments… 🙂

Leaders Offer Resources: I do not own a pair of long johns or a pair of wool socks. My hubby had extra of both and was willing to allow me to borrow them both so I could go snowshoeing in below zero wind chill temps. Employees don’t always have the necessary resources they need. Fabulous leaders offer the resources available that assist their people to become equipped to take on the task at hand and succeed. Great leaders offer their people essential resources.

Leaders Offer Support: My snowshoes were not fitting correctly. My husband showed me how to tighten the straps so the shoes wouldn’t fall off. He also showed me where the ball of my foot should hit when I’m walking, which I had no idea about even though I’ve been snowshoeing for years. He even told me WHY the ball of the foot is supposed to hit that certain spot.  I get confused about which foot goes on which shoe so Dean shared his secret to remembering which one goes on which foot. Dynamic leaders offer the same kind of support to their administrative team, their faculty, and their staff. Leaders demonstrate the HOW and the WHY to the people they lead. Leaders share ideas that have worked for them to become awesome so their people can also become awesome.

Leaders Offer Freedom: After my husband offered the support I needed, he gave me the freedom to ‘do my thing.’ He knew I had the skills and abilities and willingness to snowshoe, so he let me exercise those skills and abilities (and what revitalizing exercise it was). He trusted me to use my talents to do the best I could while snowshoeing. Superb leaders offer their people the freedom to put their best foot forward and trust them to use those skills and abilities for the greater good of the students.

Leaders Offer Safety: When we first started out, we were walking side by side. The deep fresh snow was difficult for me to walk in so I let my husband go ahead of me. The wind was strong, so after about 10 minutes of watching him lead, I decided to put my head down and just follow the trail he was making. 🌬❄ A few places were tougher because the snow was deeper, but by him going first, this made it more doable for me. I knew he would keep me safe from any treacherous terrain. Outstanding leaders earn the trust of their people by going forward first and breaking trail. Leaders take the safest route for their followers. Not the easiest, the safest. It’s easy to trust and follow the direction leaders are going when its evident they have our best interest in mind.

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Leaders Offer Reassurance: Since my husband was in the lead, he didn’t know if I was still following close to him or if I had fallen behind. On several occasions, he stopped and turned around to check on me. If I had lagged behind a little, he would wait for me to catch up and then turn back around and continue on. He didn’t have to say a word…he just turned around to make sure I was doing okay. I found this immensely reassuring, especially since it was now snowing and blowing. Caring leaders offer reassurance to those they lead. They will check in on their people often to make sure all is going well and to see if there is anything they can do to help; especially if times are tough for some reason.

Leaders Offer Do-Overs: If you know me at all, you know I love to take pictures. After we had been out for a little while, we stopped by an evergreen that would block the wind so I could take our picture. My glasses had steamed up and were full of ice so I had no idea if the picture turned out or not. We continued snowshoeing. At the end of our adventure, shortly before we reached our house, I asked if we could take one more picture just in case the first one didn’t turn out. My husband was a good sport and granted my do-over wish. Empathetic leaders offer do-overs to those they lead. There are many circumstances that can interfere with our ability to perform. Calling all leaders; whether you are a school board member, superintendent, principal, special education director, curriculum coordinator, instructional coach, teacher, volleyball/basketball/baseball coach, parent, grandparent, whomever you are; offer compassion and know we ALL want a second chance, we ALL want do-overs!

Regardless of the snow, wind, and cold, our snowshoeing adventure turned out to be invigorating! 🌨🌬❄☃ Leaders…want to revive and energize those you lead? Then offer them the resources, support, safety, freedom, reassurance, and do-overs they need to be revitalized. ☺💪👍🏂

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Say Hello to POWERFUL Teaching

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We teach future teachers…those people who will positively or negatively influence YOUR children. We just want you to think for a minute of the impact that will have on thousands and thousands of kids throughout the world! No small task in that power!

We believe in preparing our teacher candidates to be POWERFUL teachers. We positively role model it every day, leading by example.  We build positive relationships with our teacher candidates so they know we sincerely care about them because “students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” ~anonymous

We have passion and enthusiasm for this profession, and we bring our WOW game to work every.single.day! We toss unexpected kindness around our department like pixie dust so our teacher candidates learn to soar as powerful teachers.

WE are POWERFUL teachers, and we facilitate our teacher candidates to become POWERFUL teachers too. They are sponges, wanting to absorb all our thoughts, stories, insights, and ideas on HOW to become a powerful teacher.

Our teacher candidates requested us to pencil these experiences into a book so they will have a reference to use when they finally get out into the real world and begin teaching. We have unconditional regard for our teacher candidates so we complied.

Our book was born. 🙂 Say hello to POWERFUL Teaching, which hit the bookshelf this week! Tangled author emotions abound. Excited to be published, hopeful it meets our teacher candidates’ expectations, fearful of being scrutinized. Squash that fear!!

You will find this book has a unique twist to it as each author has their own writing style. We believe you will find these varying styles intriguing while you read the book. Below are a few excerpts from POWERFUL Teaching. Enjoy!

Passion for education can be expressed in multiple ways. A voice that exudes contagious, excitement as it echoes through the building. While others are subtler, showing their love for the craft in more understated formats; that after class discussion which includes a nudge when needed, staying late, arriving early, never looking for recognition. No matter how it is illustrated, what is evident in those who are passionate about teaching is a deep love for the craft that is recognizable from the moment you encounter the person.” ~Dr. Mary Risacher, page 2.

Open-mindedness does not happen overnight. It is equivalent to exercise. We know it is good for us and we should do it as often as we can, but humans do best when they build slowly. So, think of it as an exercise for your brain and conditioning until it becomes more automatic; a sort of rewiring for your brain!” ~Dr. Mary Risacher, page 16.

“We write history together each day in our ordinary and extraordinary work. What story we create and tell together depends on the WOW-factor in our work and lives. Together we can do more, be more, wow more. Wow is our collective creativity. Be the WOW-factor in teaching and learning. This work is serious business. This work is seriously an art form. Wow brings joy into learning…” ~Dr. Sonya Vierstraete, page 31.

“If you plan to hang out with children all day you absolutely have got to go out and find yourself some serious enthusiasm! Enthusiasm simply means having intense interest or zeal for something, which in your case would be your teaching.” ~Dr. Sonya Vierstraete, page 46.

“Ongoing research from the Search Institute (2014) has shown that ‘young people…need people in their lives who challenge growth, provide support, share power, and expand possibilities.’ Since many students spend more hours per day with their teachers than they do with parents/guardians or other adults, it becomes essential that teachers develop these types of positive relationships with their students.” ~Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter, page 65.

“To make your best first impression, make sure to use your best professional language—in writing (no texting abbreviations!) and speaking (avoid the use of slang as much as possible). Make sure to make contact with your mentor teacher as soon as you receive your placement, and respond to any questions your mentor may have in a timely manner.” ~Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter, page 84.

Unexpected kindness can happen anytime, anywhere, in any workplace. My husband came home from his office one day (he is a software developer for insurance companies) and told me they had had a fire drill. When the workers all got outside, there were ice cream treats waiting for all of them. An unexpected act of kindness in the business world…got to love that. Educators, it’s time to take a stand and BE kindness. When our students witness us giving unexpected kindness to others, they, too, will want to pass it on.” ~Dr. Wendy Schoolmeester, page 108.

“We have power to change our schools by being a positive example. Let’s put an educational twist on John F. Kennedy’s famous quote: ‘Don’t ask what your school can do for you; ask what you can do for your school.’ What can we do? We can be a positive role model for all to witness. Let’s become a conductor and orchestrate school improvement by being a positive example for others. Let’s become a quarterback and throw a touchdown for school successes by being a positive role model. Let’s become a chandelier and illuminate brightly for children and lead by example.” ~Dr. Wendy Schoolmeester, page 123 – 124.

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Meet the POWERFUL Authors:

Dr. Mary Risacher, Dr. Sonya Vierstraete, Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter, & Dr. Wendy Schoolmeester

Stay Calm & Be POWERFUL!
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May Your 2019 Be Practically Perfect in Every Way

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My husband and I went to the movie Mary Poppins Returns last night. What a delightful show. If you haven’t seen it yet, please go! It is magical, enchanting, charming, witty, poised, and helps our inner child come back to life.

I have fond memories of the first Mary Poppins; watching it with my own children when they were young. So when this new one was advertised, I told my hubby we were having a date night with a large popcorn.

I absolutely LOVED this new version! I laughed. I cried! My heart did a flutter and a dance when Dick Van Dyke made his appearance and then danced on the desk. At 93, the man still has it! I smiled a big smile then did a fist pump while whispering YES when Mary Poppins saw her reflection in her balloon and said those well known words once again…Practically Perfect in Every Way.

Do you remember the scene from the first movie when she said those five words? Let’s reminisce for just a moment. After Mary Poppins arrived at the Banks home, she was upstairs with Michael and Jane and she is frantically looking in her bag for her measuring tape. Michael asks what for and she replies, “I want to see how you two measure up.” Their measurements? Michael is stubborn and Jane tends to giggle. The children want to know how Mary Poppins measures up. She measures herself and boasts; “as I expected…Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way.” 🙂

With 2019 arriving in less than 24 hours, may I get personal and ask you how your 2018 measured up? Was it a stubborn and suspicious year? Was it a year full of giggles? Or, was it practically perfect in every way? No matter what kind of year 2018 was for you, let’s welcome the New Year with the advice from Jack in Mary Poppins Returns: “Let the past take a bow. The forever is now.” ❤

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We are excited to embrace NOW! Right now. This very moment. NOW…the best gift ever. We hope many doors are opened for you in 2019. Step through those doors, and enjoy the adventures that await you! Just like Mary Poppins did. And may your 2019 be “practically perfect in every way.” Happy New Year, readers! Thanks for always hanging out with us. May God bless you all!

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Stay Calm & Embrace Now!
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Lessons Learned from Serving on the School Board

 

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Tonight was my last evening to serve as the School Board Chair. While it was my decision not to rerun, it is still bitter sweet!  I was first appointed and then elected to a 4 year term. In my quick 5 ¼ years on the school board, I was voted in as the chair each year for my last 3 years. An experience that I gained incredible insight from. Thank you to my esteemed board teammates for believing I could handle it. 🙂

This is my 32nd year as an educator…teaching elementary students in grades 3 and 5, then serving as an elementary principal, and now teaching teacher candidates at SMSU how to be powerful teachers. Serving as a school board member provided me the opportunity to view education through a brand new lens. An educational understanding you can only acquire by serving on the board.

Here are a few essential lessons I learned while serving the students of my home district as a school board member and chair:

Run for school board WITHOUT an agenda!

Read and understand the School Board Code of Ethics!

You can’t please everyone so always do what’s right for the kids!

Make your decisions for kids then move on!

Make INFORMED decisions!

Pray about every decision you make (this should be THE number one priority)!

Communicate with your state School Board Association for advice (THANK YOU to Sandy, Gary, Katie, and Cathy at MN School Board Association for ALL your help)!

Attend the yearly School Board Conference. Excellent leadership professional development!

Assume positive intent when you are questioned on your decisions!

Know that people will make speculations and assumptions (especially when they are not at the meetings and only get their information from the local newspaper).

Social media (especially Facebook) will attack you! It can get downright nasty…oh well!

Do NOT engage in social media rage!

You are ONE voice! Do not speak for the rest of the board!

Be professional!

Prep prior to the meeting!

Respect those who are speaking…no side bar conversations!

Listen to ALL points of view!

There are two sides to every story!

Bring ALL concerns to the superintendent!

Use face-to-face or a phone call to communicate with the superintendent!

Ask questions, then follow up on those questions!

Offer your perspective!

Respect the opinions of others!

Keep an open mind and heart!

Support the board after a final decision has been made!

NEVER tell the public “you will take care of it.”

Know your role!

You are NOT the superintendent!

You are NOT to micromanage!

You will finally know what you are doing by about year four!

And please, follow the chain of command!

Those are just a handful of lessons learned from my time serving. There are many more I could share, but I’ll save them for a possible book someday. 😮

A gratitude-filled shout out to my hometown, Pipestone, MN. Thank you for having faith in my abilities. Did I make mistakes? Of course I did! I’m human, and none of us are perfect. I strive for “continuous growth.” 🙂 However, I know my servant leadership had a positive impact and made an uplifting difference for this district while serving. And that is what life is all about…serving others. It’s been an honor and a pleasure! God bless!

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Photo Credit: Kyle Kuphal, Pipestone Co. Star

Stay Calm and Respect Your School Board,

Profs Dr. Wendy & Dr. V.

 

Giving Thanks for the SMSU 2-Day, Theme Based Elementary Clinical 2018

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That’s a wrap, folks, for this year’s production of the 2018 SMSU 2-Day Elementary Clinical. It was a BIG hit!!! Each year, the SMSU teacher candidates have the opportunity to team teach for two full days and be in complete charge of a classroom. The classroom mentor teacher is close by, however, our teacher candidates do ALL the teaching. Everything from reading to math to social studies to gym and music. They get a lunch break and that is about it. They do have each other, however, which settles down some nerves.

This 2-day, theme based clinical is an experience of a life time. And it is one they will never forget. It is a lot of work for them, but, let’s face it, teaching is a lot of work.

One teacher candidate was overheard saying his feet were killing him. Another teacher candidate was overheard saying she hadn’t been to the bathroom all day. One teacher candidate said directly to me that she was exhausted…and it wasn’t the end of the first day yet. Yes indeed, teacher candidates, these are all realities of teaching.

I asked if a few teacher candidates would describe their clinical experience using the format of the children’s book called The Important Book by Margaret Wise Brown. Each thing this author describes in her book follows a pattern. It begins with “The important thing about __________ is __________.” Two or three more description sentences are added and then is ended with “But, the important thing about __________ is ___________.” The same exact sentence as the first.

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Below are a few of my teacher candidate’s thoughts on “The important thing about clinical was______________.” Enjoy. 🙂

Alexis Streich, Elementary Education Major with a minor in SPED shared the following:

“The important thing about clinical was realizing that students inspire teachers just as much as teachers inspire their students.

Clinical was time consuming, challenging, thought-provoking, tiring, and inspiring. It was full of trial and error, can you help me tie my shoes, muffled giggles of students who should be working quietly, and too many cups of coffee to count.

But, the important thing about clinical was realizing that students inspire teachers just as much as teachers inspire their students.”

Maizie Schacherer, Early Childhood Education Major, shared the following:

“The important thing about clinical was having the opportunity to experience two full days in the life of a teacher.

It is a rewarding experience, it provides new learning for both the students and teacher candidates, it provides an opportunity for growth, it builds a foundation for teaching, and it provided us with the opportunity to better ourselves as future educators.

But, the important thing about clinical was having the opportunity to experience two full days in the life of a teacher.”

Emily Augustin, Early Childhood/Elementary Education Major; Megan Hacker, Early Childhood Education Major; Amber Tietz, Early Childhood Education Major shared the following:

“The important thing about clinical was this gave us the opportunity to truly be the teachers and prepare for our future classroom.

Clinical was the most overwhelming, stressful, and nerve-racking experience we have ever been a part of. However, it was also the most enlightening, informative, and educational process a future educator can go through. It gave us the tools and resources needed for a classroom and the chaotic times which come with it. On our first day, we had to have gym in our classroom which we were not prepared for at all, but teaching is all about rolling with the punches and dealing with anything that might come a teacher’s way. Even though clinical was easily the most stressful part of our educational career at SMSU, it was, without trouble, the most rewarding adventure.

But, the important thing about clinic was this gave us the opportunity to truly be the teachers and prepare for our future classroom.”

Congrats to all of you, teacher candidates. We are proud of the outstanding educators you are becoming. We give thanks for you…and we give thanks for this clinical experience! 🙂 Enjoy your much deserved break!!

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Make Your Little Corner of the World a Better Place for the People You Serve

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“Something I tell my teacher candidates all the time is that we all get the same 24 hours in a day and days in a year, so I encourage you to use your time the best you can and hopefully to make your little corner of the world a better place for the people you serve around you.” ~Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter

My colleague/friend and I just returned from the Minnesota Rural Education Association (MREA) Conference that was held at Cragun’s Resort near Brainerd, MN. I serve on the board for MREA representing Higher Education. In addition to Higher Education, others who attend this conference are teachers, principals, superintendents, school board members, curriculum coordinators, counselors, and many others. It is a fabulous conference with much learning. If you live in MN and your school is a member of MREA, we highly recommend this conference to you!

MREA includes an Awards Banquet during this yearly conference. Schools are nominated for the Profile of Excellence Award. These schools are selected based on programs that are innovative, benefit students, have collaboration efforts, and are adaptable for other schools to replicate.

Teachers are nominated for the Educators of Excellence Award. The criteria for these teachers are those who have a positive impact on students and student achievement, are a leader in their school and district and community, have an innovative and creative teaching practice that impacts all students, and who collaborate with colleagues, parents, families, and the community.

One last award that MREA offers is the Distinguished Service Award.  MREA asks that these leaders demonstrate one or more of the criteria listed on their website. While I was reading through these criteria, the first person who popped into my head was my colleague and friend, Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter because she doesn’t meet just one criterion, she meets them all. So of course, I nominated her.

Rhonda was chosen to receive this award. ❤

Being an MREA board member, I was offered the privilege of introducing her at the awards banquet. Of course I said yes. I was a nervous wreck getting up in front of 300 plus people, but I survived it. Below is an excerpt from my introduction to give you just a glimpse of who Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter is:

Rhonda is a person who I have come to trust and appreciate and love. She has many diverse experiences and has achieved so much in her life. I’d like to share just a glimpse of who Dr. Rhonda Bonnstetter is and how she got to where she is today.
Rhonda is the mom of 4 children…three daughters and one son. Her son happens to be here tonight with us. Thank you Josh for being here to support your mom.  
In addition to her 4 children, Rhonda and her late husband Jeff were foster parents to numerous children. She shared with me that she lost count after 40. 😀
Rhonda began her career as a paraprofessional as a young mom.
With encouragement from two teachers, Dr. Bonnstetter decided to attend college to become a math teacher.
**She taught high school math at Murray County Central for nine years.
**Rhonda continued on by earning her Master’s Degree in Math Education and then her Educational Doctorate degree in Curriculum and Instruction.
**She then joined us at SMSU as a faculty member in the School of Education in 2005. Four short years later Rhonda was voted in as our Department Chair and held this position from 2009 until 2014.
Among her recent accomplishments was her visioning to create and gain legislative approval for a para-to-SPED teacher program as a non-traditional pathway for mid-career individuals to join the profession.
Rhonda has held a variety of local and state leadership positions to advocate on behalf of Minnesota teachers. She served on the MREA board for 8 years and also served as president. Rhonda is the president elect for MACTE and she has worked closely with PELSB.  
Rhonda began phased retirement this school year however…I know she’s not done yet.
How do I know this? Well…because Rhonda is an “and then some” kind of girl. She does what is required, and then some. She has written a textbook for her Technology class. She has co-authored a textbook with myself and other SMSU professors. She teaches math at Marshall High School during the summer. She plans and presents math workshops through the SW/WC Coop.  She watches her 12 grandchildren to help out her adult children. She has done all of this ‘and then some.’  As Fred Nolan has said about Rhonda, “She is like the Energizer Bunny. She just keeps going and going.”
I’m grateful for Rhonda and her commitment to the teaching profession. She is truly making a difference in the lives of every student she works with…

Readers, if you’d like to watch the awards presentation check it out on YouTube. The video is the whole banquet so skip ahead to 1 hour and 47 minutes to watch Rhonda’s award. Thank you to MREA for Live Streaming it. (Click on the MREA pic below to watch).

Blog Rhonda Awards BanquetOne funny story from the day after the awards banquet. A gentleman approached Rhonda to shake her hand and congratulate her. He smiled and said to Rhonda, “After all those experiences that were mentioned in your introduction, I thought for sure an old lady would walk on the stage. And then I saw you…you are young.” 😀

Rhonda, if you are reading this, we just want to say congratulations again! You are so deserving. As your Granddaughter Abriel Bonnstetter has been known to say… “Grandma, you’re kind of a big deal.” We couldn’t agree with her more. 🙂

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He Displayed the True Grit of a Survivor

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He was jolted by 7200 volts of electricity at the Holland substation after a snow storm. He had given his safety gloves to someone else because he didn’t think he’d have to climb. They needed him so he stepped up and when he did, he slipped on the ice. As he was falling, he ever so slightly brushed the hot wire with his left middle finger. 

That was all it took. The 72 hundred volts of electricity traveled through his body… miraculously in between heart beats… searching for the nearest exit. Had it traveled when his heart was beating, his heart would have exploded.

That vicious current exited his body blowing out his right forearm, his right fingers, his right leg close to his knee, and the arch of his right foot causing devastating destruction.  

He had a bizarre thought as he fell – “I forgot to shave.” It was the morning of New Year’s Eve 1974, and he had planned to take his lovely wife out for dinner that evening.  Always thinking of others first.  

He perished when he hit the ground. Dan, his friend and coworker, frantically worked strenuously, keeping him alive as he went in and out of consciousness. He was flown by medical airplane to the St. Paul Ramsey Hospital Burn Center where he endured violent excruciating pain as the medical team tweezed away at the burned skin where the electricity had charred his body.

They meticulously plucked and pulled piece by piece of that black scorched skin until they reached the flesh that had life. This procedure was performed behind sound proof doors so the screams couldn’t be heard by others. 

He went through many painful skin grating surgeries. They needed healthy skin to replace what had been burned away. 

He coded while on the operating table during one of those skin grafting operations. Doctors frantically worked hard to bring him back. He was revived! The surgeons never again used that anesthesia on him. 

After three torturous months in the burn unit, he was discharged and allowed to go home. The healing process required just as much resilience and fight as what was needed while in the hospital. 

The doctors wanted to sew his hand into his belly to help his burned off, skin grafted fingers heal. He said no and promised to soak those stubs several times a day in peroxide. He also promised to make sure his stubbed fingers would not grow together. So he gently pulled them apart several times a day regardless of the agony it caused. All this while tending to his skin grafted right forearm, leg, and foot. 

Before he was discharged, those doctors body slammed him with devastating news…they told him that he’d be lucky to live five more years because of all the unknown effects of that electrocution. They told him he would have very little use of that right arm once it was healed.

He displayed the true grit of a survivor. He lived for 40 more years beyond that tragic accident, and he had 85% use of that arm. He proved those doctors wrong! 

He was courageous and brave and strong and tenacious and determined and tough. Most importantly, he was so very loving and kind and generous and patient and honorable and a true gentleman. 

He was my dad! ❤

So when I start to have a pity party because I think life is tough and unfair, I just think of my dad and say a silent prayer of thanks.

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Stay Calm & Display Grit!

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I Choose Love, Kindness, Empathy, & Forgiveness

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“Wendy is nothing but a failed administrator.”

OUCH!! Those were some abusive, harsh, nasty words. Sometimes people say hurtful things when they aren’t happy with current personal circumstances. If an unpleasant situation is going down, then sometimes we come out swinging and punch back in a revengeful way with painful words.

If your contract is not being renewed…painful. If you are being reprimanded by your boss…painful. If you are being yelled at by a loved one…painful. If you are being ostracized because of a decision you made…painful. If your child tells you he/she hates you…painful. If you receive an angry email…painful. If the world seems to be shouting “you’re not good enough”…painful.

That’s why those cruel words were said about me. I had to make a difficult decision concerning the future career of someone, and that decision was not well received. Understandable.

I had two choices…let those abrasive words make me angry allowing bitterness to suffocate my heart like weeds that strangle, crush, and destroy everything in their presence; OR, I could fill up my heart with love, kindness, empathy, and forgiveness. Then move on.

God’s opinion of me is all that matters to me so I chose love, kindness, empathy, and forgiveness.

I encourage you to do the same because at one point in time we have all been insulted by another person’s painful, cruel, venomous, spiteful words. I understand how degrading it can be.

Forgive!! Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what they said is okay. It means you are free of the offense and won’t have to use any poisonous pesticides to rid the weeds of bitterness that could possibly take root in your heart.

I choose to show love. I choose to be kind. I choose to be empathetic. I choose to forgive.  Join me?

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Stay calm and forgive!

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Pick A (Health) Lane and Stay In It

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“Pick a lane and stay in it!” Those were my husband’s words to me last night right before heading to bed. No, I wasn’t driving. But I was swerving all over the place with my thoughts (I’m the spaghetti brain, he is the waffle brain. Read the book to find out what I mean 🙂 ).

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Last year I started Weight Watchers® just to lose a few pounds so I could get back into my clothes that were too tight. I had great success with it. Yay me!! #humblebrag

Recently, I read the inspirational book written by Dr. Dale Bredesen called The End of Alzheimer’s: The First Program to Prevent and Reverse Cognitive Decline. It is a dynamic book that I highly recommend you all read. Because my dad had Alzheimer’s and my mom had Dementia, I have a 50% greater chance of having the Alzheimer’s marker. This book gives me humongous hope.

In the book, Dr. Bredesen teaches us his protocol to help prevent and reverse Alzheimer’s. It’s all about nutrition, friends!! He strongly recommends to follow the KETO/FLEX 12/3 wellness plan. KETO is the Keto diet which is all-a-craze right now…high fat and low carbs. The FLEX is Flexitarian…similar to vegetarian with more flexibility to eat meat, mostly fish and poultry. The 12 is intermittent fasting for 12 hours at least, but he suggests trying for up to 16 hours between your last meal in the evening to your first meal the next day. Lastly, the 3 means nothing to eat three hours prior to going to bed.

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I share all of that because I’ve been trying to maintain my weight with Weight Watchers while at the same time trying to incorporate the Keto/Flex wellness plan. I use the Weight Watchers app to keep track of the freestyle points, plus I have also been using My Fitness Pal app to keep track of carbs…uffdah.

Last night when I said “SHOOT” out loud, my husband asked what was up. When I explained to him that a food was okay on Weight Watchers but not so good for the Keto plan, that is when he smiled at me and passionately said (with added gestures, mind you), “Pick a lane and stay in it!”

Okay. Yes, dear. Great advice and compliance, dear hubby. I’ll be sticking with Weight Watchers for now. (I like fruit too much and fruit has high carbs). So a BIG thank you to my man for giving me the nudge to pick my lane. (But, please read Dr. Bredesen’s book! It’s really, really good!!!).

On a side note…Happy October. It’s my favorite color. It’s also a time to think about the upcoming holidays and all those delicious meals that can sabotage our well-being if we aren’t careful.  Rachel Hollis, author of Girl, Wash Your Face, has created the #Last90Days challenge that just started today. Rachel is using these last three months of the year to get healthier.

Yup…I’m joining in on the fun with that one too. It allows me to stay in my Weight Watchers lane without swerving and causing an accident. Even if all I do is obey Rachel’s “5 to Thrive” list, I’ll be good to go. I’ve put Rachel’s 5 to Thrive list as my phone wallpaper so I am reminded of them daily! Check it out for yourself and join the #Last90Days challenge with me (click on that link).

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Never hurts to want to be a healthier me (or you). I’ll soon celebrate my birthday which will also be my last year of my 50’s. 😮 I want to be a spunky 85 year old woman, so a girl’s got to do what a girl’s got to do. 🙂 We girls need to look out for each other, right? Let’s try our hardest to stay healthy, friends. Blessings to you always…

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